Misbeliefs: I’m All Alone
Many survivors of childhood abuse report feelings of being alone in the world, that no one can understand them. These feelings are deeply rooted in the abuse, where the perpetrator methodically created a private space of, “Don’t tell.” They come from feelings of shame survivors experience, making them unwilling to disclose their abuse.
You may not wish to share what happened to you with others; that’s your decision to make. While some may find a relief in telling their story openly, others may desire to tell only a select few. You know what is best for you.
No matter how many people know about the abuse, you will find times when you still feel all alone. In those times reflect on some of the following thoughts.
- God knows everything that happened to you. In Luke 12 we have the reassurance that he knows the number of hairs that are on your head. What comfort this can bring. He understands the feelings your abuse brings, for Jesus suffered undeserved abuse, too. He is walking beside you as you experience misery and shame. Will you always feel him with you? No, but he is still by your side.
- God loves you. He sent his son to die for you. No matter what your abuser has said or made you feel, you have the Lord’s reassurance that “Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed” Isaiah 54:10. A God with that much love for you will never leave you alone.
- You are not alone in your abuse. Others have suffered many of the same abuses you have and have some understanding of what you are feeling. Resources are available to help in your community, often through the local domestic abuse shelter. The Freedom for the Captives website has a resource page [add hyperlink to resources] that can assist you in finding resources.
- God does not promise believers an easy life; don’t expect one. He does promise to be with you and send helpers when they are needed. These are the encouragers in your life, the ones who want to see you succeed. Freedom for the Captives is here to be that help if you want it. Please send us a message through the website [hyperlink to contact us page].
Feelings of aloneness after abuse are normal. Keep hold of God’s promise in Deuteronomy 31:8. “The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.”
If you would like to talk with someone, you can ask to speak to a Freedom for the Captives pastor or advocate on our contact form.