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INFORMATION TO EMPOWER YOU

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If you are a survivor, we hope this website will provide you with information that will empower you in understanding and responding to the physical, emotional, and spiritual impact of child abuse and neglect.

We are also willing to assist by answering any spiritual questions you may have or to help you find a professional who can help.

If you have any questions, please contact us.

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devotions for survivors

Dear Survivor series on Freedomforcaptives.com

Dear Survivor: I am afraid of other men.

Dear Fellow Survivor, I’d like to share with you a victory I experienced this morning. I was able to work ...
Dear Survivor

Dear Survivor: Your victories are worth celebrating.

Dear Fellow Survivor, I’d like to share with you a victory I experienced this morning. I was able to work ...
Dear Survivor: You Are Fearfully and Wonderfully Made

Dear Survivor: You Are Fearfully and Wonderfully Made

Dear Fellow Survivor, I’ve already shared with you that one of the most long-lasting effects of the abuse I experienced ...
Dear Survivor: God Is Bringing Good Out Of What You've Experienced

Dear Survivor: God Is Bringing Good Out Of What You’ve Experienced

Dear Fellow Survivor, In a previous letter, I assured you that none of us has ever been alone. God has ...
articles for survivors

Misbeliefs

Misbeliefs: I’m All Alone

Many survivors of childhood abuse report feelings of being alone in the world, that no one can understand them. These ...
Misbeliefs

Misbeliefs: It’s My Fault

Survivors of trauma, whether childhood abuse, sexual assault, or domestic abuse, share a belief that the abuse was their fault ...
Coping with Flashbacks

Coping with Flashbacks

People who have experienced trauma may experience flashbacks in their everyday lives. Flashbacks can be intense and bring back the ...
What Is A Trigger?

What Is A Trigger?

Experiencing a sudden onset of the feelings and emotions that you felt during an abusive situation is a common experience ...
nfo to Know When Seeking Counseling

Information to Know When Seeking Counseling

Choosing a counselor should not be difficult. Here are a few things to keep in mind when selecting yours ...
Definitions of Child Abuse

Definitions of Child Abuse and Neglect

There are numerous federal and state laws that define child abuse and neglect. In determining whether or not a specific ...
Understanding and Preventing Child Sexual Abuse

Understanding and Preventing Child Sexual Abuse

Parents, grandparents and other caretakers often have many questions about speaking to their children about abuse and in otherwise keeping ...
books for survivors

Book - Deep as the Sea - Freedom for the captives

Deep As The Sea

Deep as the Sea: Letters to Survivors of Trauma by Timothy C. Bourman is written for the survivor of trauma. Read More
On the Threshold of Hope

On the Threshold of Hope – Part One

Part one of our review of Dr. Diane Langberg’s On the Threshold of Hope. Read More
On the Threshold of Hope

On the Threshold of Hope – Part Two

Part two of our review of Dr. Diane Langberg’s On the Threshold of Hope. Read More
Prayer

Prayer – Does it Make a Difference?

Review of Philip Yancey’s book Prayer: Does It Make a Difference? Read More
Rid of My Disgrace

Rid of My Disgrace

Book review of Justin and Lindsey Holcomb’s Rid of My Disgrace. Read More
Whatever is True

Whatever is True: A Christian View of Anxiety

Review of William Woodington’s book Whatever is True: A Christian View of Anxiety Read More

faq’s for survivors

Children are abused or neglected in many ways. A child may be beaten. A child may be touched sexually or forced to touch sexually another person. A parent or other caretaker may emotionally abuse a child by telling them they are of no value or should have never been born. A child is also maltreated when a parent fails to feed or clothe a child or denies essential medical care. Children are also maltreated when they witness violence between their parents. Although child abuse laws differ from state to state, our website includes a summary of standard definitions developed by the World Health Organization and International Society on Child Abuse and Neglect.

Every ten years, the United States Department of Health conducts a massive study to determine as much information as possible about child abuse in the United States. This research has consistently found that most children are abused or neglected by their biological parents or their non-biological parent or partner. Specifically, the researchers found that 100% of neglected children, 93% of emotionally abused children, 91% of physically abused children, and 60% of sexually abused children have been victimized by their biological or non-biological parents or partners. Others who may abuse children include those who have access to children through day cares, schools, churches and other youth serving organizations.

Read this research, known as the National Incidence Study.

Most abused or neglected children are violated in multiple ways. Specifically, 66% of children abused in one way are abused in at least two ways and approximately 30% of abused children are maltreated in five or more categories (physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, neglect, witnessing violence, etc.).

This is why it is important to pay attention to all possible forms of abuse and, when working with a survivor, to keep in mind the likelihood he or she has been abused in many ways. If you would like to read more about this research, we recommend the following articles:

Heather A. Turner, David Finkelhor, and Richard Omrod, Poly-Victimization in a National Sample of Children and Youth, 38(3) American Journal of Preventive Medicine 323 (2010); David Finkelhor, Richard K. Omrod, Heather A. Turner, Poly-victimization: A Neglected Component in Child Victimization,31 Journal of Child Abuse & Neglect 7 (2007).

In a series of studies of more than 450,000 patients, the Centers for Disease Control and Kaiser Permanente found that physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, neglect and other forms of maltreatment are associated with higher risks of numerous medical and mental health conditions including cancer, heart disease, liver disease, depression, anxiety disorders, and sleep disorders. The researchers found that the greater number of categories of abuse a patient endured, the greater the potential impact on their health.

If you or someone you know has experienced child abuse, you may want to acquaint yourself with Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) research and to discuss this with your doctor, counselor or other professionals.

You may want to start by clicking on the following link to the CDC about the Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE)

According to 34 major studies involving more than 19,000 abused children, a significant number of children suffer “spiritual injuries.” This can happen when the abuser uses religion in the abuse of a child. For example, a parent may beat a child while telling his son or daughter that the beating was ordained by God. Spiritual injuries can also result because a child is confused by God’s response to the abuse.

For example, a child may have asked God to stop the abuse and is saddened or angry that God did not answer the prayer in the way the victim desired. Research has found that left unaddressed, spiritual injuries can also impair our physical and mental health.

resources for survivors

1in6

1in6 helps men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences live healthier, happier lives. 1in6 also serves family members, friends, partners, and service providers by providing information and support resources.

Freedom for the Captives – Counseling

Visit our FFTC counselors page for resources that may help in finding a counselor.

Help for Adult Victims of Child Abuse

HAVOCA provides support, friendship, and advice for any adult whose life has been affected by childhood abuse. HAVOCA

Male Survivor

An organization committed to preventing, healing, and eliminating all forms of sexual victimization of boys and men through support, treatment, research, education, advocacy, and activism. Male Survivor

Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network

RAINN is the nation’s largest anti-sexual violence organization. Resources include a national hotline (800.656.HOPE), resources, information, and education and training. RAINN

Special Ministries Mental Health Needs

Informational brochures and counselor information to help Christians make informed choices as they choose a mental health provider when suffering from abuse or addiction.

Standing Up for Children

Standing Up for Children: A Christian Response to Child Abuse and Neglect. All churches and schools need to be safe places where leaders actively work to prevent abuse. Freedom for the Captives (FFTC) offers online training videos taught by experts Mr. Victor Vieth, director of education and research at Zero Abuse Project and Prof. John Schuetze, a seminary professor and counselor. To learn more, check our training webpage. To request the training for yourself or your group, please complete our online learning registration form.